A dragon abducts the princess and carries her away to its lair. The knight-in-shining-armor mounts his warhorse and charges to her rescue. If he fails his quest, he’s burned alive. But if he prevails and slays the beast, he wins her hand in marriage, becomes a prince, and lives happily ever after. It’s every girl’s dream to be rescued by a valiant warrior and every boy’s need to face the challenge and prove his worth.
Why is this tale etched into our collective conscience? Because it originates in the Garden of Eden. Let’s take a look in the book of Genesis:
Gen 3:1 “Now the serpent was craftier than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.'” “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.”
You’re probably thinking, “That’s no fairy tale.” But it is. Only it’s the tragic story of a failed hero who did not slay the serpent, ultimately dies as a result, is stuck with a fallen woman, and lives unhappily ever after. The fairy tale is the way we wish things had ended. We needed the hero to win, banish the dragon, and live forever in victory, not disgrace. But he was not up to the task. The first man, Adam, failed. He was standing right there with her yet did nothing. Even worse, he ate himself. Let’s continue:
Gen 3:7 “Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the LORD God among the trees of the garden. But the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me–she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the LORD God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
Naked, afraid, and hiding from the consequences of his actions, he actually has the audacity to insinuate God was to blame: “But, but, but… you gave her to me.” He gallantly blames Eve as well. This is biblical soy of epic proportions. God then turns his attention to the woman who, like Adam, promptly deflects blame. Finally, God addresses the serpent. He asks no questions, but immediately levels a curse upon him:
Gen 3:14 “So the LORD God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, “Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heel.”
Adam was formed from the dust of the Earth. Lifeless until God breathed spirit into him. Satan is a liar and a deceiver. Because he had done this, God cursed him to eat lifeless dust, without hope of living water the rest of his days. He placed permanent conflict between him and humanity. Satan constantly strikes men on the heels causing them to stumble, but ultimately, Christ will crush his head under foot. Here lies the key to the fairly tale’s enigma.
Next, he reverses order and addresses the woman again, possibly signifying her higher level of culpability.
Gen 3:16 “To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”
The first part of this is self-evident. Childbirth was never designed to be an unpleasant, painful experience. God changed that. It’s now one of the most painful things a human will endure, but from it, comes great blessing. It is ironic that modern medicine has developed epidurals to block pain during labor. What about the second half of God’s statement? Upon initial reading, it doesn’t seem like much of a punishment, so what are we to make of this strange statement?
Many commentaries take it to mean women desire to rule over men. I disagree. In light of modern red pill* theory, I propose the following two interpretations. First, that she would wrongly direct her desire towards man and not God the father where it properly belongs. This would result in endless amounts of disappointment and dissatisfaction.
Second, she would desire that which she could never have. This is the source and origin of hypergamy. What she most strongly desires no longer exists. This unfulfilled desire will forever rule over her. Man, the husband, has fallen from grace (disgraced) and she is chiefly to blame. Buried deep in the psych of every woman since Eve lays this brutal truth. So traumatic, it remains hidden beneath layers of obfuscation and emotional rationalization.
An alpha didn’t step in and beat the serpent into a bloody pulp and turn to her and demand, “What the hell are you thinking?” He gutlessly let her test the fruit first, and only after it didn’t kill her did he eat. After she ate, he didn’t stand firm and bring her before the Lord and ask, “What do we do now?” No, he followed her lead. When God asked him where he was, he hid, naked and ashamed. He didn’t confess his sin; he made excuses and cast blame on the woman, not the snake. Verdict: beta, gamma, or pure soy; take your pick. The first man failed to act as a MAN and his fallen nature has been passed to all men since.
Hypergamy can’t commit. Women desire men capable of protecting them, but such males are dangerous and frequently make unsuitable companions. The alpha will use and widow her. There is no salvation for women in him, although god knows they desperately want it. There is no fairy tale where the white knight beta, too afraid to approach her let alone ever confront a dragon, will win her heart. Him she will use and want to discard, but post wall, risks facing life outside the garden naked and alone. Ultimately, she must settle for a fallen man, one incapable of satisfying her fallen nature, a reminder of her own shame and failure in the garden. There is no Christian Grey coming to her rescue, but she will forever be ruled by her longing for him. Hypergamy is a curse of feminine fallen nature, not the result of natural evolution.
Finally, God turns his attention back to the man.
Gen 3:17 “To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”
Unlike the serpent, God does not curse man, but the ground he must work (this isn’t just about farming, but all his endeavors). The first man’s legacy was passing death to all men. His dilemma: What’s the point? Eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow he dies. Alpha playboys gaming women won’t find purpose or meaning in it and ultimately the lifestyle will damn them. Beta providers will never satisfy their sexual thirst and attempt to work their way into a woman’s good grace only to find the ground is cursed and they toil in vain. The insecurity of boyhood haunts men into adulthood. Do I have what it takes? Would I have succeeded where Adam failed? Am I a hero? Satan is always present, relentlessly tempting and accusing men of failure.
The apostle Paul the sums it up perfectly:
Rom 7:24 “What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body that is subject to death?”
And the very next sentence:
“Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord!”
Christ is the second Adam.
1 Cor 15:45 “So it is written: “The first man Adam became a living being”; the last Adam, a life-giving spirit. The spiritual did not come first, but the natural, and after that the spiritual. The first man was of the dust of the earth; the second man is of heaven. As was the earthly man, so are those who are of the earth; and as is the heavenly man, so also are those who are of heaven. And just as we have borne the image of the earthly man, so shall we bear the image of the heavenly man.”
1 Cor 15:50 “I declare to you, brothers and sisters, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God, nor does the perishable inherit the imperishable. Listen, I tell you a mystery: We will not all sleep, but we will all be changed– in a flash, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, the dead will be raised imperishable, and we will be changed. For the perishable must clothe itself with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality. When the perishable has been clothed with the imperishable, and the mortal with immortality, then the saying that is written will come true: “Death has been swallowed up in victory.”
This is Christian redemption found nowhere else: salvation and resurrection. Christ the King fulfilled his sacred purpose granting men the power to crush the dragon under their feet:
Rom 16:20 “The God of peace will soon crush Satan under your feet. The grace of our Lord Jesus be with you.”
He redeems man, elevates them to kings and priests, and they rule with him for eternity in a new garden:
Rev 22 “Then the angel showed me the river of the water of life, as clear as crystal, flowing from the throne of God and of the Lamb 2 down the middle of the great street of the city. On each side of the river stood the tree of life, bearing twelve crops of fruit, yielding its fruit every month. And the leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations. 3 No longer will there be any curse. The throne of God and of the Lamb will be in the city, and his servants will serve him. 4 They will see his face, and his name will be on their foreheads. 5 There will be no more night. They will not need the light of a lamp or the light of the sun, for the Lord God will give them light. And they will reign for ever and ever.”
Life is a grand adventure with tragedies and triumphs. To the victors go the spoils. Cast aside doubt, fear, despair, and hesitation; they cripple true potential. “Hypergamy doesn’t care.”* So what? Manhood is much larger than mere hypergamy. This is not an appeal to “Man up and save a THOT.” It’s “Bow down and save your soul.”
Mk 8:36 “For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”
Mt 6:33 “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
Only through Christ can man reestablish a relationship with God. He will equip you to be a leader, husband, father, and rock capable of weathering the storm and become a fisher of men. Iron sharpens iron, and only a sharp, doubled-edged sword is suitable for slaying dragons.
Heb 4:12 “For the word of God is living, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.”
Will you heed the Spirit’s call to battle? Will you follow the Lord Jesus Christ in victory against your enemies? Will you sacrifice pride in service to the righteous king? Count the cost; this is no mere altar call. Leave no man behind.
Bow down and rise up. You are destined for eternal glory. May the peace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you along The Way.
* Credit to the work of Rollo Tomassi.